Saturday, April 28, 2012

musings about love and marriage..

photo credits by: Alvin
Most, if not all of our suppliers were friends. More than the low rates, it's because we know that their hearts are in the right place and that, just like us, they would also strive to make our wedding a success.

A well-written prose by our friend and emcee,  Kimboy Uy.

Yesterday, I did something I never expected I would do: host a wedding. I have never been a fan of weddings; just a fan of good relationships. And since I was a fan of my friends', I did so anyway, wholeheartedly.

I think marriages are there just to satisfy the demands of the society. I always argue that marriage to me is an optional activity albeit I don't stop people from doing so. It is, at an
y rate, a fun activity - stomach-satisfying too. Still I say that the foundations of a good relationship rests beyond any contract people enforce to "bind" two people together.

Regardless of my negative view on marriages, I am happy at how Chi and Eric found their way together. I am a fan of their love and I am certain they will be together even if all marriage contracts are suddenly deemed invalid.

For me, love is like a game of lottery. You choose the same numbers all the time not because you know for sure that those numbers are going to hit the jackpot. The jackpot prize is just secondary, if at all important. You choose to play the same numbers day after day because no matter how many times those numbers have not given you the millions, you are willing to risk the next day and still see the set of numbers perfect.

In the same way that it is perfectly OK for you to see the same person with the same bad breath in the morning equipped with the same satisfied feeling and confidence that another day with him/her is not bad at all, or even better.

When one chooses to be with another person, as how he chooses to bet on the same set of numbers over and over again, I believe that the easiest way to stay afloat in the wavy journey of love is to see that the numbers themselves are not necessarily perfect. But you have all the means to make them perfect for you all the time.

01-02-03-04-05-06. These are my lotto numbers. Might not be a winning combination, yes. But I don't mind. For my eyes they seem to be in perfect shape.

Sunday, April 22, 2012

Our parents' guests

pic credits



Filipinos are big on "hiya." According to Wikipedia, "hiya" is loosely translated as 'shame' by most Western psychologists, however it is actually a 'sense of propriety'.

It is a part of a filipino's psyche to always think about what others would think or say about them.

In a sense, it is good as this serves as our inner compass in doing what is morally right. In most times, however, it is ill placed.

In the case of a Filipino couple planning a wedding, this is very detrimental.

If someone else pays for your wedding, it's expected that they have a say on who goes into the guest list. The tough part is that even if you pay for your own wedding, they'll invite their guests nonetheless.

This is a source of utmost exasperation and a test of one's patience.

A wedding should be a celebration of a couple's step to making a lifelong commitment. It is but right that this should be witnessed by the people who helped the couple along the way. Not just financially but emotionally, psychologically and physically. 

In no way or form can I understand why is it "nakakahiya"  to not include your parents far aunties and uncles you haven't personally laid eyes on for the past 10years and haven't contributed to you and your partner's personal growth in any way.

Wouldn't it be more "nakakahiya"  to the couple to have their wedding day witnessed by people they barely know and the people that they would want to invite just doesn't fit in the guest list anymore.

A supposed joyous event becoming a sad, sad affair.

tsk.. tsk.. tsk..

Friday, April 13, 2012

skateboard (tech deck) boutonnieres -( a funky approach to boutonnieres )

DIY for weddings have always fallen into the laps of brides. Maybe because they're the ones who usually take the lead when it comes to wedding preps.

In our case however, h2b is turning out to be more crafty and skilled in this area.

True enough, I have been laboring with my bouquet for the last 2months while just a week before the wedding, he finished the bouttonniere for him and the rest of the male entourage in just one sitting.

Following my lead of non-real flowers for the wedding, h2b also crafted the boutonnieres using other materials.

Though I know the materials that he planned to use, I was still amazed with the finished product. It was so pretty, crafty and unique which was well-suited for our ideal wedding.

He injected his favorite sport into it and this is how it looked.

The finished products


the main ingredient :)

materials used

samples


and more samples


Creativity at it's finest! And because of this, I'm now asking him to finish off my bouquet. tee hee!

Friday, April 6, 2012

our budget friendly, kiddie wedding invitation

It's crunch time!

Two weeks to go and we've finally printed our invites. We'll be giving them out by next week and guests should RSVP by the 16th.

The thing with invitations is that here in the Philippines, it's more of just a formality.

Take us, for example, most of the people that we'll invite were already informed a few months back.

Also, based on our experience, invitations are just thrown afterwards. That's why we didn't allot a big budget for this.

What was very important to us was to personalize it and that's what we focused on.

Maybe, both of us are just kids at heart that unintentionally, our wedding kept on having a childlike tone.. which was very evident on our invites and all throughout the event.

Here is a sample of our kiddie invitation.


The cover page

we made sure that the wordings are also informal

we didn't use the traditional titles




the RSVP page that nobody bothered to returned. hehe!
 
It was personalized and on top of that, also very budget-friendly. Everything cost us less than P1,500.

Some tips:

Design your own invites - designing our own invites meant that we didn't have to pay for a graphics designer's fee. At the same time, we're sure that our design is uniquely our own.

Have it printed at a local printing shop - initially, we were suppose to buy a printer and work on everything ourselves. However, h2b decided to canvass the prices offered by printing shops within our area first. Doing the math, he realized that we'll be able to save a lot if we have the invites printed instead. They quoted us P5/piece (including paper and printing service.) This not only saved us money but time as well.

Buy envelopes by bulk from bookstores - bookstores, such as National's carry envelopes in a variety of colors and sizes. We purchased ours for P30 / pack of 10. And since we don't have a motif, we got one of each available color.

We love the outcome of our invitations. It's even less than our allotted budget and we were able to personalize it the way that we wanted to.













 

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